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Peace on earth

I have found this year to be a huge melting pot of emotions. Personally my life has been very good, but the loss of lives and the devastation all around has been tragic beyond words. We are all human beings and to find compassion in our hearts is so very hard...

To Love and to be Loved

To love and to be loved are in the words of Sebastian Faulks in his wonderful novel Birdsong, the most important things we can have in life. And I would agree. The problem is that some people cannot believe that they are lovable and are so full of self hatred that...

The Price we pay for Love

Most of us have felt the pain of a doomed love affair, or worse the death of a partner, or even a child leaving home. I have had many patients sob in my room for all sorts of reasons but the thing I always tell them is that  whilst I can see how painful it is for them...

Remember, Remember

  Trying to forget pain is normal human behaviour. The problem lies in the fact that no matter how hard we try, very little is truly forgotten. Sometimes the pain is stored in our bodies and we exhibit physical symptoms sometimes it becomes psychological and we...

Over Achieving

I was watching a programme on a famous athlete a couple of weeks ago. It was a fascinating insight into a truly driven human being; two Olympic gold medals, an OBE, he’s skied across the Antarctic, rowed across the Atlantic, run the Marathon des sables and, as if that...

BBQ Sauce

Many years ago I came across a story about a couple who were having difficulty making a decision. They were in a big supermarket planning a BBQ. The woman turned to her boyfriend and asked him which BBQ sauce he would like. He replied he didn’t mind and that she could...

Trusting the Process

  I have problems with my knees; I have had problems since my early 20’s when I injured one knee through running and the other through skiing. This has affected my feet as well and so recently I sought help and went to have some orthotics fitted. The orthotics...

Liberation Day

Habitual ways of behaving are often useful in that they help to free our minds for other things. But if we always find ourselves getting upset when someone teases or angry when overtaken on the road, it may be worth looking at why that might be. Starting to let go of...

Sibling Rivalry

Most of us will have seen or heard the comments that David Milliband made about his brother Ed after the election. As I mentioned before I am not particularly a political animal but I was appalled and saddened  by David Milliband’s comments. You may like Ed Milliband...

The Dream

If by any chance you read this blog regularly you will know that I use dreams frequently in my work and that I believe they can help people understand what our unconscious already knows. Some time ago a patient told me that for many years he had had a repetitive...

Perfect in your Imperfection

I mentioned two weeks ago that I would continue with the theme of Super Pleasers and here is the second part as promised.   We all make mistakes and get things wrong, but if we can accept it, recognizing we are imperfect and yet still lovable, we can also accept...

Saving People from themselves

The remainder of the ‘super pleaser’ blog will be published next week,  meanwhile I hope you find this blog of interest.   It’s natural to assume people want to look after themselves and improve their lives but unfortunately this isn’t always...