Peace on earth

I have found this year to be a huge melting pot of emotions. Personally my life has been very good, but the loss of lives and the devastation all around has been tragic beyond words. We are all human beings and to find compassion in our hearts is so very hard...

To Love and to be Loved

To love and to be loved are in the words of Sebastian Faulks in his wonderful novel Birdsong, the most important things we can have in life. And I would agree. The problem is that some people cannot believe that they are lovable and are so full of self hatred that...

The Price we pay for Love

Most of us have felt the pain of a doomed love affair, or worse the death of a partner, or even a child leaving home. I have had many patients sob in my room for all sorts of reasons but the thing I always tell them is that  whilst I can see how painful it is for them...

Remember, Remember

  Trying to forget pain is normal human behaviour. The problem lies in the fact that no matter how hard we try, very little is truly forgotten. Sometimes the pain is stored in our bodies and we exhibit physical symptoms sometimes it becomes psychological and we...

Over Achieving

I was watching a programme on a famous athlete a couple of weeks ago. It was a fascinating insight into a truly driven human being; two Olympic gold medals, an OBE, he’s skied across the Antarctic, rowed across the Atlantic, run the Marathon des sables and, as if that...

BBQ Sauce

Many years ago I came across a story about a couple who were having difficulty making a decision. They were in a big supermarket planning a BBQ. The woman turned to her boyfriend and asked him which BBQ sauce he would like. He replied he didn’t mind and that she could...