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The Super Pleaser

How often have you found yourself agreeing to something you don’t really want to do? Or found yourself saying you think the other person has a point when you can’t actually see it? If the answer is ‘yes’ you might be a people pleaser. Ordinarily the above examples do...

Mental Health and Party Politics

  I am not an expert in party politics but I have read the various manifestos and it is clear the current government does not have as pro-active an attitude to mental health as some of the other parties. For several years I have been battling the government’s...

Humpty Dumpty

By the time people eventually come to see me they may feel very broken. It is as if they have lost their essential self and no longer know who they are, if they ever did. Of course we all want to be fixed but it may not happen in the way we envisage. It may take some...

Subjectivity and Objectivity

More and more I hear about people who have lost touch with various members of their family. It always fills me with great sadness; life is so very short and whilst I agree with the statement that you can’t choose your family, I also agree that blood is thicker than...

Marriage and an MOT

I have just been reading an interesting article in last week’s Saturday papers, in which Marina Fogle writes movingly about her marriage to Ben Fogle and how she believes an annual check-up with a therapist would help many marriages. “ We realised it is as important...

Every Silver Lining has a Cloud

  This is a line from a song by Alison Krauss a beautiful song called Paper Planes. I like the line because it reminds me of how easy it is to fall into the trap of thinking in a certain negative way. For example the other day I was driving to see someone,  but...

Talk Talk

I was watching an interesting programme on the TV earlier this week. It was called Life after Suicide. The woman who featured in the programme had lost her partner to suicide some years ago and was making a documentary about the effects of suicide on those left...

A Loss

It is something sadly that we will all experience several times over during the course of our lives. If we are lucky then we will be mature and have learned resilience to be able to deal with it. If we are unlucky we will experience death and the loss of parents,...

42%

  I have read that I am in the category (42%) that saw the dress as black and blue, (which apparently are the true colours). The rest (52%) saw the dress as white and gold. I am not sure what happened to the remaining 6% maybe they never got caught up in all of...

I Love You

I was listening to Desert Island Discs last Sunday morning and caught Professor Angie Hobbs talking to Kirsty Young. Professor Hobbs is Professor of the Public Understanding of Philosophy,  a more wordy title must be hard to find, and she spoke a lot of sense. Regular...

The hoarding Hamster

I was watching a very interesting programme on the television the other evening. The programme was about house pets and on the programme they showed a hamster. The interesting thing about the hamster was how he hoarded food. The reason, well of course it is fairly...

The Adjustment Bureau

A patient just finished therapy recently. I always have a few sessions where we can wind up the work and say goodbye and this session was wonderful because the patient summed up neatly what it is we do in our time together. She started by saying that this winter...